Communication is a two-way street, not one, and the channels of communication consist of a message, a sender, and a receiver. If a sender has the message but fails to deliver it to the receiver, the intended receiver cannot be blamed for not responding or participating in what the sender had in mind. Sometimes the sender will have a good message, but experience barriers when trying to convey his/her message because of language or semantic barriers, as some words and dialects can hold multiple meanings, while symbols and gestures are interpreted based on one’s reflexivity. Quill (1995) highlights that languages, symbols, gestures, words, and dialects can present barriers to effective communication. According to Akilandeswari, Kumar, Freeda, and Kumar (2015), the effective communicator would “anticipate the unlimited ways a message can be understood or misunderstood.” Subsequently, a careful communicator will always remember that “to effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” (Akilandeswari, Kumar, Freeda & Kumar, 2015). For this reason, Jehovah God extends a great invitation to us to come and have a conversation because communication is key in ALL relationships. Therefore, your things are not moving, and your plans are distracted because the intended participant did not show up or participate in your plan as a communicator, it’s time to look at the person in the mirror and improve your ways of communication; otherwise, you are going to be frustrated and blame everyone for not understanding you while you do not even understand yourself!
People are not mind readers and the only person that understand unspoken words and thoughts it’s the God the Almighty, because He is our creator. When we fail to engage in an effective conversation because of our poor communication skills and past traumas, then we cannot blame the world for being unkind to us; but we ought to seek some help to prevent us from losing precious treasures, friendships, and meaningful relationships. If you have done wrong or disappointed because of uncommunicated expectations, it’s time to apologize to those whom you’ve accused of not caring. If you have sinned because of your rebellion to listen to the Word of God and Godly counsel when wisdom was shared with you, then it’s time to repent. If you have hurt those who love and care for you because of your poor communication behaviours, I am afraid you need to ask for forgiveness and CHANGE your ways of communication and make use of technology instead of relaying on face-to-face correspondence only. If you remain stubborn and keep on telling everyone that it is your nature, that’s how you are and you don’t like to talk, well maybe you need to book yourself in the zoo because no one will tolerate to stay with an inflexible animal. Both failure and success are in the power of the words we speak, the manner we convey them and our conduct. If you do not believe, please take time to study the following verses and ask the Holy Spirit to give you a clear revelation of the key to success and failure.
“14 Your New Moons and your appointed feasts My soul hates; they are a trouble to Me, I am weary of bearing them. 15 When you spread out your hands, I will hide My eyes from you;
even though you make many prayers, I will not hear. Your hands are full of blood. 16 “Wash yourselves, make yourselves clean; put away the evil of your doings from before My eyes. Cease to do evil, 17 Learn to do good; seek justice, rebuke the oppressor; defend the fatherless, plead for the widow. 18 “Come now, and let us reason together,” says the Lord, “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red like crimson, they shall be as wool. 19 If you are willing and obedient, you shall eat the good of the land; 20 But if you refuse and rebel, you shall be devoured by the sword”; for the mouth of the Lord has spoken.” Isaiah 1:14-20 NKJV
#May the Lord help us to be true!
#Holy Spirit reveals our weaknesses and convicts us to repentance as we have hurt others with our words or inability to communicate effectively!
#“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Provers 18:21 NKJV